Energy crashes

[Minaret]

Alice and Lili, I think deep inside we know exactly what to do to be healthy and make the right decisions. I just think we are so clouded by our 'societal conditioning' and 'education' to behave in a particular way.

In certain respects being 'truthful' towards by brother has become a metaphor for me about other things I am uneasy about. I have started to ask myself 'am I being really honest here', when I feel an energy drain : - for example, I continued out of habit, having coffee time and lunches with people I had met because I thought I should develop more friendships when I moved somewhere new. After a while I thought we didnt have much in common except where we lived... and really some of there habits were not compatible with mine. But I didnt know how to end the meetings, except for them to think I was rejecting them in some way. And a part of me thought 'well your just a sad loner'...

I have been reading a book by Eckhart Tolle 'The Power of Now' which has helped. he talks about how much of our thinking and anxiety is based on the fact that we are mostly worrying over the past or getting worried over some future event. So we are not really there in the moment at all. When I thought about this with these ppl I just stopped thinking how to end it, I accepted them exactly as they were. I also began to say 'no' when someone arranged something or that I was doing something else...my social world didn't fall apart like I thought it would!!

because my energy drains got worse and worse when I spent time with them (my body knew what to do), I havent been able to meet them for 2 months now.... During that time I have developed different interests... which funnily enough has led to different contacts, and ppl I have more in common with...but knowing how fragile my energy is I havent developed that pally thing I sometimes get into with ppl, suggesting meeting for a coffee or having them to my house. I feel inside more balanced and free (more energised). At least I am starting to follow the truth of how I feel at the time... I have to... my energy levels lets me know!!!

Those layers of emotions and family sanctions, not being in the moment, hide the truth of who we really are and our way back to perfect health.

[lili2701]

Alice- god u live in London! where excatly?? It's my dream to live there! I've been wanting to move out there for years but as I cant work at the moment I wouldnt cope, especially there, life is not that easy, housing is expensive etc..

Minaret, it's funny you talk about the present time cos that's exactly what I find difficult to do and that's the main prob of most CFS sufferers-in my opinion- because we're stressed that the past, i.e pain, tiredness etc will be the future, even more because it's a long illness and then the brain gets the confirmation that we're stressed out it'll last forever and as fear attracts what we fear, in the end we remain ill. That's why the Gupta approach is really good, it helps me but at the moment I'm so stressed out I find it difficult to calm myself down. As soon as I have a negative thought of the future, I do the stop stop stop and think that the furture does not exist yet and that what will happen will be shaped by our fears, thoughts and emotions so if we live the present and deal with all this when it comes up and really understand that we can change everything, then we can make miracles, but of course it's not always easy!
EFT is really helpful but I tend to not be too regular.

My stress at the moment is that I accepted to look after a child of my best friends brother, twice a week from 8am to 3pm and each time I have to go, I cant sleep the night before so I feel really really crap as even when sleeping a lot I do and that's why I stress and then dont sleep cos Im just scared not to sleep, that's so ridiculous and I've tried everything -sleeping pills, gupta, relaxation, this thing in my brain wont go off and stays stuck grrrrrr and then i feel so exhausted, even ill cos I need to sleep but my brain wont let me, that's crazy. I have to go tomorrow and I couldnt sleep last night so I'm even more stressed cos if i dont sleep tonight i dunno how i'll cope.. anyway STOP sTOP sTOP i need to live the present. lol.

it's really all in the brain.

I understand about ur meetings, I had exactly the same problem, we used to meet with college friends once in a while but at some point everything went wrong in my life and I didnt want to see them and having to explain all that cos I knew they would judge me, i mean we had a laugh at uni but things changed and they're more people i know than friends and i didnt want to justify myself, espcially about my health issues cos most people dont understand so everytime they asked me to come I turned them down saying i wasnt feeling ok, they havent asked me out since so I guess they took the hint.

anyway i'll try to relax now!
have a nice evening!

[StarDust]

It totally happens to me sometimes, I don't think it's glucose crash because no matter how much sugar I eat it doesn't help, I just have to wait till it passes, helplessly. Most of the time I'll just lay on my bed. I remember one time my mother needed help to lift some stuff and I had this sort of down, the stuff wasn't particularly heavy but it just felt so painful to contract any muscle. I was doing it in such a way that I would use the least my muscles that I almost broke my back. After a short moment I couldn't do it anymore, it was too painful so I had to let her do the job, I felt like such an asshole...

[Shorty]

This is soooo amazing to see that other people are dealing with the same things as I do. I have a big problem in saying no to family, especially family and end up really drained and stressed. I have recently tried to limit what i do for them but its so hard and i always feel like i have to explain why i cant do something or that i can only do so much, and while its coming out of my mouth it sounds so lame.. even though its real for us noone can really understand.
I also have learnt that i really have to accept my limitations. I have noticed that if i do what needs to be done and no more and take regular breaks i feel like i can get through the days but eventually i start feeling a bit better and want to bust out and do way too much. i find this so hard to be so grounded at times.

Its just so wonderful to hear everyones stories and we are all so similar