Feeling Hopeless

[annie]

today i have horrible pain and am feeling really ill. i have done a.t. several times, and soften and flow, but all my thoughts are 'this hurts' and 'i am not able to change this'. i don't know what to do. i simply don't know how to break the thoughts when in such pain, has anyone ever managed to shift this?

[pam11]

I'm not saying it's easy, but breathing (slowly and deeply) into the pain, accepting and exploring it, is the best option when it's too hard to ignore. It's hard, but MAKING it go away is impossible. What is its shape, size, color, movement, texture, is it thick or thin, if moving or pulsing- how fast or slow- and ask these questions moment to moment so you realize its not this big, solid, thing that has landed on you-- It's much more open to changing than that. Basically, use Soften and Flow and really think of every possible way of describing it. Thinking of you- you're not alone.

[trudi]

I do the stop stop stop on all of those thoughts and if you stick with it and don't let a single negative thought go by without stopping it and replacing it I will bet you will see improvement. I did! You can do it too! It may not happen over night but it will work! Do the technique, don't give in to the pain, stop it! Replace it with your commitment to your future.

[annie]

Thank you so much trudi and pam. I feel rather guilty at having posted such a negative post on here when we are all struggling in various ways, I really hope I didn't upset anyone. Was just 'boiling over' at the time.

[spring]

No need to feel guilty annie. By sharing here you help all the others who are out there experiencing the stage you are at. Your question and the replies to it have really helped me today and reinforce what I need to do on days when my symptoms have flared, which happens to be today

One thing I do on those days is to remind myself that this is just one day and that tomorrow, or the day after, if I stick with the programme this too will pass. That helps me get out of my head and distract myself with something else.

[spring]

[quote="trudi"]I do the stop stop stop on all of those thoughts and if you stick with it and don't let a single negative thought go by without stopping it and replacing it I will bet you will see improvement. [/quote]

Trudi, what portion of the stops you do are the full technique do you think, and what portion are the other versions? I'm giving new emphasis to getting all the little thoughts now that I have got to this stage and am just wondering what sort of routine people are finding achievable.

[java]

It breaks my heart to see so many people in pain. I'm glad you have a caring support group. Try this. Visualize how you would feel without pain. Picture yourself doing things you would do and being happy. Now feel what it feels like. Now tell yourself you DO feel like this, rather than you WANT to feel like this. You have to see it and feel it as if it has already happened. Tell yourself how grateful you are for manifesting perfect health. Visualize everything you want in life also- no limitations. See it, feel it, and believe it. Every minute of each day, keep saying to yourself, " I am whole, I am perfect, I am strong, I am powerful, I am peaceful, I am happy." And feel it with each breath. Your subconscious can't tell the difference between reality and fantasy as long as you believe it.Through repetition, your brain breaks old neuron connections and makes new ones if the new ones happen more often. In other words, if you can stop yourself from thinking something and replace that thought with a new thought, the brain eventually loses contact with the old thought, and starts to believe the new one. The body then begins to respond to the brain, even to the point of healing itself. Our thoughts can make us ill, but they can also heal. This has been evidenced through quantum physics. It takes effort and practice to monitor our thoughts, but it is worth it. But remember - it took your whole life to get here, so change takes time, too. Just like stopping a speeding car, you have to slow up, then stop, then turn around. Be patient and believe. Also, every night, write in a journal describing what would be your perfect day. It's essential to write it as if it already happened today and say how grateful you are that you manifested these things. Look at your words and feel it. Make this the last thing you think about before you go to sleep. I know there is no magic bullet, and I hope I'm not being intrusive. If this is of any help, then that's all that matters. Best wishes, Java.

[niaholt]

Java,
I love the idea of writing it all down. I do a diary but I dont say much. Maybe this will be good for me to force myself to think and imagine where I can see myself doing amazings stuff like travelling and how much fun I am having. So many of us have been ill for so long it is hard to imagine sometimes how great we can feel. I like to visualise myself running...running away from this illness. After a year I am getting tired of feeling the engines of the plane take off leaving me behind. I want to FLY this plane.